Emotional Security

When you hear the word "Security" what image comes to mind?

I am guessing that most people think of walls, locks, chains, fences, etc. One of my good friends from way back when used to make a lot of money selling security systems in the summer. One of the reasons he did so well was because security is just what people are after in life. They'll even pay for it. 

What is true security? Is it a tangible thing? 

Truly it is associated with tangible things:

Jobs:

Animals, plaques, agencies, badges:

And now that you have all of these things in your life and it has been one year, are you emotionally secure? Are you secure in who you are? 

Maybe this is another issue altogether. Some readers may even still be trying to understand me. Here are some examples to illustrate---

Another way of explaining the term "emotionally secure" is "okay with yourself"-

Are you okay with yourself even though you sometimes binge eat?

Are you okay with yourself even though you abuse(d) your children all in their formative years?

Are you okay with yourself even though you have cheated on your spouse?

Are you okay with yourself even though you, as the woman, "wear the pants" in your relationship?

Are you okay with yourself even though you really are prejudice against all of your neighbors?

Are you okay with yourself even though you are addicted to _________? (fill it in yourself)

Are you okay with yourself even though you watched something bad happen to someone else and did nothing to stop it?

Are you okay with yourself even though to some degree you put on a facade and make people think you are something that you really are not?

Are you okay with yourself even though all your friends, family, neighbors disagree with everything that is so true for you?

Are you okay with yourself even though your friend, family member, or neighbor is at their very core something that you have been trying to avoid your entire life?

Are you okay with yourself even though you know someone in lockdown is innocent and you said nothing?

Are you okay with yourself even though you are the guilty one who should be locked down for what things you have done in your life?

You see, we all have something hidden in the closet. Do me a favor and the next time you see a magazine in the checkout lane exposing someone's secret drug addiction or whatever the sleaze on them says, just turn and look away. Vote their victory. See them as emotionally secure. Imagine them experiencing an opulent life, without the need to __________ (insert sleazy addiction or problem in space). See them emotionally secure. 

Then start being real yourself. Tell whoever you need to tell, whatever it is that you should be telling them. If this is hard for you, imagine the situation reversed. Now they have your problem and are seriously afraid to tell you about it. What do you wish they would do? 

The first step is the hardest. 

The second step is also kind of hard. You get to hear their feedback. It might be silence. It might be yelling. It might come in the form of a very long and drawn out email. Whatever it is, know that you are okay with it. Love it. Love this person. They are who they are for a reason. 

After that you get to experience your real self. You are free to be who you choose to be. You are free to make more mistakes and pick yourself back up again. You are free to choose loving action more and more everyday. You are free from judging everyone else who has your same problem. 

You are emotionally secure.